I’ve often noticed how the people we meet and attract in our lives reflect something deeper within us. At first, this can feel confusing. You might wonder, “Why am I meeting people who behave in ways that I don’t?” But when we look closely, we see that energy is always at play.
For example, let’s say you are someone who gives too much in relationships. You put in extra effort, you commit fully, and yet you find yourself attracting people who fear commitment or keep their distance. On the surface, it doesn’t make sense. But if we go deeper, there is often a shared energy underneath—fear of abandonment.
The person who avoids commitment is protecting themselves from the pain of being left. And you, by over-giving and attaching too much, are also protecting yourself from the same fear. Both of you are carrying the same wound, but expressing it in different ways. That’s the energy match.
This happens in many forms. A people-pleaser may find themselves with someone self-centered. Both carry imprints around acceptance. One sacrifices too much to be accepted, while the other holds back out of fear of losing themselves. Or take someone who criticises others and someone who is insecure. One avoids facing their own insecurities by pointing outward, while the other directs the same lack of self-worth inward. The patterns are different, but the root is the same.
When you start reflecting on these energy matches, you would realize something important—every person we meet is a reflection of our inner world. This doesn’t mean we are to blame. It means life is giving us mirrors to see where healing and awareness are needed.
You can try this practice: Imagine you and the person in question in a room. Close your eyes and bring a memory to mind. Then, step back in your awareness and watch both of you as if you were a third person. If both of you are expressions of the Divine, what bond are you caught in? What are you teaching each other? If no answer comes, ask the God you pray to, to guide you.
The more you do this, the more you would see how relationships are not just random—they are teachers. As our awareness grows, so does our energy. And as our energy shifts, the people we attract shift too.
So next time you wonder, “Why did I meet this person?” pause and reflect. The world outside is mirroring something inside. And that reflection is not here to punish you, but to help you grow into your own higher self.
Hare Hare.