My higher realm teachers often talk about the role of Karma, whenever I channel in my meditation. One of the things they have recently shared is how a soul chooses a family for their human experience.
When the soul wants to manifest itself through an identity, it can do so according to its karmic bank. As the family one is born into plays a significant role in this human experience, the soul manifests an experience where it can expand its awareness of self. For that purpose, it will choose to have souls who are going through similar learning experiences and who have had karmic bonds with it.
Now a karmic impression is almost similar to a limited belief that your energy body is carrying from different soul experiences. These impressions shape the way we see ourselves, and family becomes the mirror through which we work with them.
There are two ways this happens:
- Reflection. Family members may carry the same impression as you, reminding you of what you also hold within. For example, if you have the impression of “I am unworthy,” and your mother carries the same, you may feel drawn to help or save her. In reality, she is reflecting what you want to restore within yourself. As you support her in finding her worth, you are also supporting yourself.
- Triggering. Family members may also challenge that impression. If your father, for instance, triggers feelings of unworthiness by being judgmental or critical, he is pressing on the very place where you hold that belief. Even though this may not feel pleasant, it still serves your karmic journey by bringing the impression to the surface so it can be dissolved.
So that collectively, families learn and expand into consciousness. For the soul, there is no sense of separation in the consciousness of its family. It is one consciousness vibration expressed at different levels of awareness. Sometimes, a higher-awareness soul experiences itself in lower awareness because its consciousness hasn’t expanded yet completely. That’s why you may notice a mature child born into a family still raw in their human experience.
In such cases, one should remember that there is no separation in consciousness. Like waves of the ocean—one may rise high and another may fall low—but it is still one ocean. That movement is only a temporary experience.
I often hear people ask, “Why was I born in this family?” Sometimes this question comes from a sense of superiority or frustration. But when you step back, you see that family is one of the most powerful mirrors for spiritual growth. For some, expansion may come through compassion and support. For others, it may come through setting boundaries, prioritizing themselves, or letting go of the need to fix or save.
Each journey is different. The purpose is not to fit into an idea of what family should be, but to see what your family is showing you about yourself.
So, what do you think your family is teaching you right now?